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Asking a girl on a date
Provided by: Janet Villar 
 

Category: Social Skills

Things needed:
 
pen
paper
movie schedule
  
 
Step by step directions:
 
1.) Sit down and write down the sentence. Would you like to go with me to see _______ on Friday night at ___(whatever time movie starts?
By asking the girl to see a specific movie on a specific night, you give her the chance to say "no" to the movie or the night. That way, if she says 'no', she can do so to the movie or the night. 
2.) Find a girl who you would like to go see a movie with.
3.) Introduce yourself (if she doesn't already know you) and say your line, including the name of the movie and the time.
4.) If she says 'no', then approach her on a different day and ask her again to see a different movie, if she says 'no' to this one also, she doesn't want to go out with you.
5.) If she says 'yes', ask her to write down her name and address, so you know where to pick her up.
The morning of the date
6.) Pick out your clothes. Make sure they are clean and ironed.
7.) Make sure you have enough money to pay for the movie, two tickets, two small popcorns, two small cokes.
8.) Make sure that you have reliable transportation and gas money if you are getting someone else to drive.
9.) About an hour before hand, get ready. Use deodorant, shave, and shower, but don't use any cologne or aftershave, some girls don't like certain scents.
Picking up the girl
10.) Go to her house and ring the bell 3 minutes to 5 minutes before you said you would be there, but not any earlier.
11.) If she invites you in, go in and be nice to any people or animals that live there.
12.) Try not to rush her if she isn't ready, it is OK if you are a little late. It is more important that you make a good impression on her and the people that she lives with than that you be there on time.
13.) Open her door for her to get into the car.
14.) Open her door again for her when you get out of the car.
15.) Pay for the tickets.
16.) ASk her if she would like popcorn and a coke. 
17.) Buy them.
18.) Go watch movie and enjoy it, but try not to talk during the film.
After Film
19.) Open her car door for her.
20.) On the way back to her house, discuss the movie, whether you liked it or not, whether she liked it or not.
21.) Walk her to her door at her house. Don't try to kiss her on the first date unless she initiates it. 
22.) Tell her you had a great time (whether you did or not) and that you will call her.
The Next Day
23.) Call her and tell her that you had a great time and ask her on a second date, using the same method that you asked her for the first.
 
 

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